In a recent Ipsos survey commissioned by Big Brothers Big Sisters and Invesco Canada, 59% of Canadians have revealed that they were bullied, when younger. That’s more than half the population. It got me thinking… who were all these people bullied by?
So here’s my confession... I have a child who is willful and has been known to use manipulative tactics to gain an advantage over his friends, and while I am being completely honest, over his brother and even myself at times.
Does that make him a potential bully? I think he could be.
Does that make him a bad kid. No. I don’t think so.
In the survey mentioned above - many Canadians also admitted they felt they suffered long-term harm as a result of bullying.
- 69% suffered lack of confidence
- 53% low self esteem
- 29% depression
I think the hardest part is admitting that your child, who you may feel is a reflection of you as a parent, may not always make the choices you would like them to make, despite how much you teach them. I am sure many parents jump into action when they suspect their child may be the victim of bullying but how many are just as active when they suspect their child may be the bully.
If you look at the stats it only makes sense… in some cases the bullied are also sometimes the bullies and vice versa. It is not as clear cut as good or bad and disciplined or undisciplined. It’s a complex problem.
Our research shows that having a mentor to speak to for either the bully or the bullied is a step in the right direction in building self-confidence and improving relationships.
Tell us – have you ever bullied? Been bullied? Share your thoughts and possible solutions.
* Anti-Bullying Day is this Wednesday February 27, 2013. Show your support, wear a pink shirt.